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Hey Gibbz,
I happened to pass by your entry yesterday. Yes, how very well-enlightened of you to right an entry about moving on. I kind of agree with your stages, and as for me, I guess what I have could be classified under those special cases. Alam mo naman yung storya ko eh pero for the sake of your blog, I'd share my story. As you know, I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years now. The first few months were like heaven for me, he was the sweetest guy ever! But as the months passed, specifically around the 14th month, he started changing. I don't know if I have done something to alter his mood, but yeah, somehow he's treating me differently. Gone were the days when he'd go to my house just to give me little notes that said i love you or i miss you, gone were the days when he'd rush to my house everytime i told him that i was sad, gone were the days that he'd be texting me every hour just to know what i'm doing. I know relationships go through this cycle, sweet then downhill from there, but i can't help thinking if there are other factors that has made him the way he is right now. Sometimes, I can't help thinking if I still am making him happy, because if not, I think it's better if we separate. Anyway, thanks for giving me a chance to share my story.
Kat
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Yeah, somehow every relationship enters that zone wherein the sweetness and the romanticism suddenly vanishes. There are a lot of reasons why it happens.
1. Something you've done has bothered him. Try to get to the bottom of things. Ask first if you've done anything wrong to upset him. Guys could be as much as complex as girls are. Sometimes the tiniest of things could turn us off (and i mean the tiniest...). Ask your guy this question until you're utterly convinced that this is not the cause of his sudden change.
2. There is a family problem. Try this next, maybe something has happened within his family. Try to assure him that you're still there by his side and that no matter what, you'll be there. Maybe he's just afraid to open up because maybe for him, his family problem is a really sensitive topic.
3. The thought of his future has suddenly come into his mind. Sometimes, there comes a time in a guy's life when he sets foot into the 'settling down' zone. You know, when his priorities suddenly come into focus. Maybe, he's somehow trying to put you in his future, he's trying to decipher whether you're really the one for him.
4. A problem has arisen in his career/school/etc. This could be another personal problem that should, would and could require more reassurance. Yes, assure him that YOU ARE THERE FOR HIM, no matter what.
5. If none of those 4, maybe he has another girl (or guy). That we may never know until such proof to support it could be conjured. In any case, do you trust your man enough? If you have trusting issues (and if he has a history of being a playboy) don't turn into this investigative psycho girl that would dig into his world just to know whether he's been two-timing or not. Be patient. The quote, "Walang sikretong hindi nabubunyag" is really true (well, in most cases). So just hang tight and try to read his actions. Sometimes his actions give it away like: if before, he just lends you his phone without any hesitations but now he hesitates to lend it to you, or if he people call his phone and he doesn't want to tell you who it was, etc... But of course, try to ask him if he really has someone else, sit him down, look him in the eye and ask. (But, i doubt he'd tell you the truth...)
(There are a lot of reasons why a guy could suddenly change towards his girl. These are just some common reasons...)
Kat, whatever his reason, keep your cool, relax. Keep an objective mind so that you can properly understand the situation. And regarding the fact that you're considering to let go of him, think it through properly. Ask yourself if you're still happy with him, nay, ask yourself is he still makes you happy. Don't make decisions when your under a lot of emotional streel and weigh your decisions well because regret sprouts at the end of a wrong decision. In any case, the decision still lies in your own hands..
I hope this helped...
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signing off,
gibbz |
